The Essentials of Building a Relationship: No man or woman is interested in marrying a liability. Are you an asset or a liability, says Olutayo

In a world where ignorance reigns chiefly in the minds of the youths and have them enslaved in the spheres of no wisdom on what being in a relationship is entirely all about or perhaps, misguided by people's experiences and forget that people create their own experience so they should create theirs.  

Saddened with this realisation, renowned therapist, Olushola Olutayo shares valid insights he called :Wisdom for Singles' during his teaching on 'The Essentials of Building a Relationship ' and they are listed below...

• Singlehood is a blessing and opportunity to be the best that God has destined you to be.
• Singlehood is not a sickness or something you need to be ashamed of.
• Singlehood needs to be enjoyed and the beauty be relished while waiting for your marital destiny
• There is no age that you cannot get married. So, don't rule out the possibility of you getting married at the age you are now.
• Do not subscribe to the limiting beliefs that doesn't empower you. you are not your senior sister or any of your family member or even your friends that couldn't get married after a particular age.
• God is not just going to create your spouse, he or she already exists somewhere.
• If marriage is in the purpose of God for your destiny, he already made provisions for your spouse.
• Purpose is greater than marriage, pursue purpose and not marriage.
• Marriage will not give you the kind of fulfilment that purpose will give you.
• Finding purpose and fulfilling it is the ultimate
• A man/woman of purpose is an asset and not a liability in marriage
• Finding someone to marry is not going to be by chance, you have to be deliberate about it while counting on God to help you.
• The 'he' will have to search for the 'she' where she can be found and the she will have to position herself where she can be found.
• You are not going to marry a stranger, so there is need for a relationship.
• No relationship, no marriage.
• Be courteous, be kind, loving and treat people with respect
• It is only a value-adding relationship that have the possibility of ending in marriage because marriage is a value adding adventure.
• No man or woman is interested in marrying a liability. Are you an asset or a liability.
• It is 'The man'  that is not good to be alone not 'A man'  because 'the man' is the one that is responsible, adding value, accountable, has a capacity to cultivate that actually deserves a woman. So are you 'The man'  or 'A man' ? There are a lot of 'A man' that needs to still be alone until they are qualified to be 'The man'.
• The strength of your character will determine the kind of people you attract.
• You can only attract who you are.
• Always remember there is no perfect man or woman anywhere.
• There is something in you that the other person will need in other to be the best he or she needs to be. 
• Quality and beautiful gift are always wrapped, you will need to unwrap the gift for you to discover the beauty of the same  so don't judge by the look.
• Always remember, it is only a covenant man/woman with God that can keep a covenant with any known being.
• Remember, to always ask vital questions that leads to good information which will in turn help you to make right choices.
• Dont get overwhelmed with the "Go and marry " syndrome, as people only want your wedding but less concerned about your marriage
• Be ready for marriage as marriage we turn out to be the field where your character will be most tested
• People create their experiences so create yours.       

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